Shocking Marriage Details from History that Really Take the Cake
Shocking Marriage Details from History that Really Take the Cake

Shocking Marriage Details from History that Really Take the Cake

Khalid Elhassan - September 12, 2022

Marriage is (hopefully) a once in a lifetime occasion. So throughout history, people have often splurged to make weddings as memorable as possible. Some, however, went the extra mile, and way beyond. Take the marriage celebrations of Hatice Sultan, an Ottoman ruler’s daughter. The partying lasted not just for a day or two, but for weeks on end of conspicuous consumption. Below are thirty things about that marriage celebration and other fascinating, salacious, and tragic details about some of history’s more remarkable marriages.

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An Ottoman royal. Quora

Marriage Splurging, Ottoman Style

The special day of Hatice Sultan (1660 – 1743) was special, indeed – and lasted way more than a single day. The daughter of Sultan Mehmed IV, and sister of sultans Mustafa II and Ahmed III, she was born with a silver spoon in her mouth. In 1675, fourteen-year-old Hatice was married to Musahip Mustafa Pasha, the Ottoman Navy’s Admiral of the Fleet. Her imperial family and the groom pulled out all the stops to make sure that the princess would kick off her marriage with celebrations of unrivaled opulence. The wedding, which took place in Edirne, lasted for twenty days, and the city was decorated with artificial trees that featured silver leaves. The biggest one was about sixteen-feet-wide, and was pulled by 200 slaves. Rather than navigate the city’s warren of twisting streets, all buildings in its path, including houses, were simply demolished.

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An Ottoman style wedding dress. Turkey is Famous For

In addition to daily banquets and ceremonies, there were parades, fireworks, wrestling, and other athletic contests. Musicians, artists, and actors were brought in from all across the Ottoman Empire and beyond, to put on concerts, and other theatrical performances. The bride’s dowry, which contained thousands of gifts, was carried by eighty-six mules, each covered in expensive fabrics. Their haul included an abundance of diamonds, bracelets, earrings, necklaces, and other jewelry and precious stones. That was aside from delicate porcelain, gold candlesticks, pearl-covered stools, and the era’s finest and most expensive shoes, slippers, and boots. Also prominently featured were the priciest Persian rugs, carpets, beds and table cloths. It was the era’s most lavish marriage celebration, bar none.

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Mary, Queen of Scots, and Lord Darnley. The British Library

An Unfortunate Scottish Marriage

Henry Stuart, Lord Darnley (1545 – 1567) was the second husband of Mary, Queen of Scots, and the king consort of Scotland from 1565 until his death two years later. Darnley had accomplished little of note in his brief life before his violent death at age twenty two. His single legacy was his marriage to Scotland’s queen, and her impregnation with the future King James VI of Scotland and James I of England, and thus gave rise to the Stuart Dynasty. His wife, Mary Queen of Scots (1542 – 1587) was his first cousin. The sole surviving child of Scotland’s King James V, Mary’s father died when she was six-days-old, and she inherited the throne as an infant.

Mary was raised in France while Scotland was ruled by regents. In 1558, she was married to Dauphin – the French crown prince. He became King Francis II in 1559, only to die within a year. The widowed Mary returned to Scotland, and in 1565 met her first cousin, Lord Darnley. A handsome and well-proportioned young man, he captivated her. In addition to the attraction, a marriage made dynastic sense. It would unite two branches of the Stuart line, and thus strengthen the Scottish royal family. A marriage was swiftly arranged, and Darnley ascended the throne as king consort. As seen below, it did not take long for things to start to go wrong.

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The explosive end of Lord Darnley. General History

This Marriage Featured a Murder in the First Year, and a Literally Explosive End in the Second

Queen Mary discovered early in her second marriage that her new hubby had been raised a spoiled brat, with an excessive sense of entitlement. Lord Darnley was upset when Mary refused to grant him the Crown Matrimonial, which would have allowed him to rule after her death. When his wife got pregnant, he was not pleased. Instead, he fretted that any heir would push him that much further from the throne. Darnley grew even more displeased soon thereafter, when Mary took the currency with his head on it out of circulation. He eventually focused his rage on Mary’s French secretary, David Rizzio, whom he thought had turned the queen against him, and also suspected was her lover.

Darnley and some sidekicks burst into the queen’s dining room in March, 1566, and stabbed Rizzio to death in the presence of his horrified, pregnant wife. It was an attempt to shock Mary into a miscarriage, and also bend her to his will. She did not miscarry, and gave birth to the future King James in June, 1566. However, she was intimidated enough to pardon Rizzio’s murderers. Darnley did not get away with it for long, however. Mary connived in an assassination plot that set off explosives beneath Darnley’s bedroom on February 19th, 1567. He survived the blast, but when he staggered out of the wreckage, he was seized and strangled to death. Mary married his murderer, the Earl of Bothwell, three months later.

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Steven and Elena Steinberg. ePub Books

The Vicious End of the Steinberg Marriage

In 1981, the marriage of Steven Steinberg of Scottsdale, Arizona, and his wife Elena, came to a violent end. She met her end by his knife He initially tried to blame it on burglars and a home invasion gone wrong. When police investigators debunked that possibility, he confessed that he killed her. However, he claimed to have done it while sleepwalking, a condition caused by excessive stress from his wife’s constant nagging for money. In the trial that followed in the Maricopa County Courthouse, the prosecutors put all their eggs in one basket and made a case for premeditated murder.

In hindsight, the prosecutors’ failure to hedge their bets and add some more charges as alternates turned out to be a mistake. Steinberg’s attorney, who specialized in insanity defenses, made a case for not guilty by reason of insanity. The defense was helped by evidence of sloppiness and incompetence on the part of the Scottsdale police in their investigation. Steven himself testified that he was unaware of the homicide at the time, that he was asleep when it took place, and so it must have happened while he was sleepwalking.

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A book about the Steinberg murder and trial. Pinterest

A Miscarriage of Justice That Led to a Change of Law

The defense brought in a psychiatrist as an expert witness, who testified that Steven Steinberg killed his wife in the midst of a dissociative reaction. As such, the defendant’s lawyers argued, he could not have been aware of what he was doing at the time. Steven himself was a presentable person who came across as a nice guy. After their deliberations, the jury returned its verdict. They found that the defendant was not guilty on grounds that he had suffered from temporary insanity when he killed his wife.

Because the insanity was only temporary and he was sane at the time of the acquittal, Steven Steinberg walked out of court a free man. In the trial’s aftermath, Arizona changed its insanity defense laws. Judges were thenceforth required to impose a “guilty but insane” sentence in temporary insanity scenarios such as that of the Steinberg case. Criminal defendants who are found guilty but insane these days would have to go to a mental institute. There, they might be interred for as long as if they had been sentenced to prison.

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Jerry Lee Lewis. Encyclopedia Britannica

The Marriage That Wrecked a Rock Star

Singer-songwriter, pianist, and musician Jerry Lee Lewis (born 1935) was one of the early pioneers of rock and roll and rockabilly. The latter was a blend of country, or “hillbilly music” as it was called then, and rhythm and blues, which led to “classic” rock and roll. Born and raised in Louisiana, he began to record in Memphis in 1956, and a year later, he shot to global fame with his hit There’s a Whole Lotta Shakin’ Goin’ On. He followed it soon after with his signature song, the insta-classic Great Balls of Fire, which made it to Rolling Stone’s 100 Greatest Songs.

By 1957, Jerry had already gone through two marriages. They included a technically bigamous one to his second wife, 23 days before the divorce from his first wife had been finalized. He divorced his second wife to wed for a third time, after he fell head over heels in love with Myra Gale Brown. She was his cousin – once removed, but still – and thirteen-years-old . She actually still believed in Santa Claus when Jerry Lee Lewis decided to tie the knot with her. As seen below, that marriage derailed his career.

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Jerry Lee Lewis and his child bride. Pinterest

You Can Marry at Ten if You Can Find a Husband!

In Louisiana back then, a marriage between a grown man and a thirteen-year-old girl, or marriage between cousins, was not exactly commonplace. However, it was not too unusual. Where Jerry Lee Lewis grew up, it was not a deal. So he did not think that his new wife’s age, or her blood relation to him, were problematic. To the extent he was worried about potential scandal, it had more to with the wedding date. Just as he’d done with his second marriage, Lewis’ third marriage took place before the divorce from his second wife was finalized.

Lewis simply did not realize that marriage to his thirteen-year-old cousin might offend plenty of people. Folk from his label warned him not to take his child bride with him on his first European tour. Lewis ignored them, and took Myra with him to England. It turned out to be a huge mistake. When he arrived in May, 1958, Lewis introduced Myra to British reporters as his wife – although he fibbed a bit, and claimed that she was fifteen. That was still shockingly young, and when Myra was asked, she did not help when she remarked that fifteen was not too young to marry where she came from. As she put it: “You can marry at ten, if you can find a husband“.

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Jerry Lee Lewis and his child bride return to America from a disastrous trip abroad. The Commercial Appeal

A Storm Erupted When the True Facts About This Marriage Came Out

Soon enough, Myra’s true age was discovered. The backlash was fierce and immediate. The British press in particular went after Jerry Lee Lewis hard for his controversial marriage. They labeled him a “baby snatcher” and “cradle robber”, urged a boycott of his concerts, and called for his deportation as a pervert and child molester. Tour dates were cancelled, and Jerry and his child bride fled back to the US. Things back home were not better. Scandal awaited Jerry when his plane landed in New York, and the American press was no gentler than the British had been.

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Jerry Lee Lewis reinvented himself after his marriage scandal. Roque Reverso

Jerry Lee Lewis had experienced a meteoric rise, and at the peak of his career, he was a legitimate rival to Elvis Pressley. Now, seemingly overnight, that great career was snuffed out. His personal appearance fees took a nosedive from the then princely sum of $10,000 a night, to $250. His career revived a bit a decade later, when he reinvented himself as a country singer, and performed for audiences less offended by child brides who also happened to be blood relatives. But his days as a rock and roll star were over and done with for good.

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Camila O’Gorman. Aventuras na Historia

A Tragic Nineteenth Century Love

Nineteenth century Argentine socialite Maria Camila O’Gorman Ximenez (1828 – 1848) is one of the most famous romantic – and tragic – figures of her country. Born in Buenos Aires, Camila had cultivated manners, a ladylike education, suave beauty, and a kindly disposition. Those traits, which belonged in a land of peace and beauty, were at odds with the Argentina of her day. She lived in a brutalized country whose dictator, a general named Juan Manuel de Rosas, often spiked town squares with the heads of political opponents.

Camila’s downfall came because she fell in love and carried on a romantic affair with a Roman Catholic priest, whom she eventually wed. Their relationship and marriage scandalized the country, and got both of them killed. A pillar of polite society, Camila was a friend of the dictator’s daughter. Then she was introduced to a Jesuit priest named Ladislao Guiterrez. Things clicked between the socialite and the man of the cloth. They fell in love, and in 1847, the two began an affair.

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Juan Manuel de Rosas. Wikimedia

A Marriage That Got Both Partners Killed

Camila O’Gorman and Father Ladislao Guiterrez fled Buenos Aires to a small provincial town. There, they lived as husband and wife, and launched the town’s first school. Back in the Argentine capital, their love and “marriage” became a scandal that soon took on political tones. Opponents of the country’s dictator Juan Manuel de Rosas used the marriage of a priest as an example of moral decay. That hit close to home, because Rosas was a notorious womanizer. So Camila and Ladislao were tracked down, kidnapped, and returned to the Argentine capital.

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The execution of Camila O’Gorman. Revisionistas

The dictator’s daughter pleaded for clemency for her friend. Rosas replied that the case warranted: “a show of my undisputed power, as the moral values and sacred religious norms of a whole society are at stake“. The dictator personally signed the lovers’ death warrant. On August 18th, 1848, Camila O’Gorman and Father Ladislao Gutierrez were executed by a firing squad in a prison town near Buenos Aires. She was twenty-years-old at the time, and eight months pregnant. As a last gesture of Christian charity, she was given holy water to drink, so her baby would go to heaven.

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Stella Kubler. Landesarchiv Berlin

WWII’s Slimiest Couple

Just like men, there was no shortage of venal women who performed evil deeds in World War II. One of the most venal might have been Stella Kubler (1922 – 1944), nee Goldschlag. Also known as “The Blond Ghost” and “Blond Poison”, Kubler was born and raised as the only child of an assimilated middle class Jewish family in Berlin. She was treated like a princess by overprotective parents, who gave her a more comfortable childhood than most Germans of her era.

However, Stella’s family were not as affluent as other Jewish families whose children attended her school. That ate at and filled Stella with resentment against her wealthier peers. When an opportunity to came to retaliate against those with the audacity to have been wealthier than her, Stella grasped it with both hands. In WWII, she became infamous for her collaboration with the Gestapo to track down and denounce Jews who had tried to hide from the Nazis. Her marriage to another collaborator enabled the couple to double the harm.

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Stella Kubler and a pair of fellow Jew Catchers. Donna Deitch

A Couple Who Sold Their Souls to the Nazis

To evade the Nazi dragnet thrown to catch Jews, Stella Kubler hid, and used forged IDs that listed her as Aryan. She was able to pull that off because of her blue-eyed and blond-haired Aryan appearance. However, she was eventually denounced to the Gestapo by a “Jew Catcher” – a Jew who worked for the Gestapo to find other Jews on the run from the Nazis. Her boyfriend and later-husband offered the Nazis his and Stella’s services, and bragged that he could “assemble an entire train” of Jewish deportees. The Nazis accepted the offer. The duo wed, in a marriage that brought together two horrible people. They collected 300 Reichsmarks for every Jew they turned in, and a promise to spare Stella’s parents.

Since they had themselves lived on the lam from the Nazis, the couple instinctively knew where to look for hidden Jews. Stella in particular, because she knew many of Berlin’s Jews from her years in a segregated Jewish school, was highly effective. The decision to become a Jew Catcher might not have been of Stella’s own free will. However, how she exercised what freedom of choice she had as a Catcher was entirely within her control. She pursued hidden Jews with tremendous zeal and inventiveness. Even after her victims’ arrest, when her job as a Catcher was presumably over, Stella enthusiastically helped the Nazis beat, torture, and humiliate the Jewish prisoners.

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Stella Kubler after the war, during her trial. Spiegel

A Second Marriage That Was as Slimy as the First

Despite her services, the Nazis broke their promises to Stella Kubler, and deported her parents to their death in a camp. Soon thereafter, in 1943, her husband and his family were also sent to Auschwitz. Stella tied the knot once again, and her second marriage was to yet another Jew Catcher. She continued to work enthusiastically for the Gestapo. She bet on a Nazi victory in WWII, and obtained a promise from a high-ranking Gestapo official in 1944 that she would get declared an Aryan after the war. Throughout her career as a Jew Catcher, Stella was responsible for the arrest and subsequent murder of hundreds of Jews.

The number of her victims ranged from at least 600 to possibly as high as 3000. They included many of her personal friends, former schoolmates and their families, and even some of her own relatives. After the war, she got off light. Captured by the Soviets, she was sentenced to only ten years imprisonment. After her release, she moved to West Berlin, where she was tried again and sentenced to ten years, but served none of them. She then converted to Christianity, and became a lifelong anti-Semite. She committed suicide in 1994, and jumped to her death from window of her Berlin apartment.

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Middle Ages combat manual illustration of a divorce duel. Wiktenauer

Couples Literally Fought to Get Out of a Bad Marriage in the Middle Ages

Just about any marriage starts off with high hopes of eternal love, or at least until death doth part the couple. However, not all marriages are destined for everlasting bliss – which is why we have divorce lawyers. In the olden days, divorce was difficult. It was frowned upon to such an extent that it was just about impossible to secure one. King Henry VIII for example, tried for years to get the Pope to annul his marriage. When that failed, he took England out of the Catholic fold, started his own Church of England with himself at its head, and got out of his marriage that way. For those who were not kings, things could be even trickier. They were especially tricky for women. In France, for example, just about the only legal grounds to get out of a marriage was if a husband couldn’t get it up.

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Medieval divorce duel illustration. Wiktenauer

To defend themselves from charges of impotence, defendant hubbies had to demonstrate that they could get an erection. In a courtroom. In front of witnesses and legal experts. To the satisfaction of “honest women” appointed by the authorities to check. No pressure at all. However, if a husband did not wish to prove his virility in public by “expel[ing] reproductive fluids on demand“, there was an alternative. The couple could instead fight a divorce duel. Such bouts were common enough to warrant an entire chapter in a popular Middle Ages dueling manual.

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Medieval divorce duel. Ripley’s Believe it or Not

These Spousal Duels Were Fatal, No Matter What

Hans Talhofer, a German combat instructor and court adviser in regards to judicial duels, wrote Fechtbuch (“Fencing Book”) in 1467. The illustrated tome included techniques for couples who wanted out of a marriage, and wanted to settle things with a divorce duel. Since men have obvious physical advantages, things had to get evened out. Hubbies, armed with three clubs, had to fight from inside a waist-high hole about three feet wide, with one hand tied to their body. Wives were armed with three rocks that weighed up to fight pounds, tied in a cloth like a battery in a sock, and could move around the hole freely. Both sides’ weapons had to be of equal length.

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Medieval divorce duel. Wiktenauer

A husband who touched the hole’s edge forfeited a club. If he did so three times, he had to continue unarmed. If that happened, he would presumably have to try and wrestle her into the hole before she bashed his head in. Talhofer’s manual offered advice about appropriate clothes, best techniques for each gender, and step-by-step instructions to exploit the opponent’s vulnerabilities. The duels were surprisingly fair, and numerous women emerged victorious. Although divorce duels were not to the death, death was the ultimate result. If the wife won, her husband was executed, and if the husband won, the wife was buried alive.

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Alexander Pushkin. Russia Beyond

Marriage to a Flirt Got Her Hubby Killed

Alexander Pushkin (1799 – 1837), Russia’s greatest poet, was also an outstanding novelist, short story writer, playwright, and dramatist. He pretty much founded modern Russian literature. He addressed conflicts between personal happiness and duty, and loners’ rebellion against the system. His writings teemed with vigorous life-affirming themes such as the triumph of human decency over oppression, and of reason over narrow minded prejudice. A born aristocrat, Pushkin descended from Abram Gannibal, an African kidnapped and sold into slavery as a child, who ended up in Istanbul. From there, he was taken to Russia and presented as a gift to Tsar Peter the Great. He adopted Gannibal and raised him as his godson. He rose to prominence as a general and courtier in the reign of Peter’s daughter Elizabeth. Gannibal led an extraordinary life, which was described in Pushkin’s biographical novel The Negro of Peter the Great.

Precocious, Pushkin published his first poem at age fifteen while a student at the elite Tsarskoye Selo Lyceum. While still at the Lyceum, he began his first major work, the romantic poem Ruslan and Ludmilla. It used folkloric Russian themes of an epic hero overcoming numerous obstacles to rescue his bride. Pushkin flouted accepted genre rules, rejected the traditional Russian style of classic poetry, and broke barriers against the use of colloquial speech in verse. It was violently attacked, but it brought Pushkin fame and cemented his place as an innovator. Sadly, he didn’t enjoy success for long: his marriage to a flirt got him killed. Pushkin’s life was cut tragically short, as seen below, at the hand of his slimy brother in law, Georges d’Anthes, a French officer in Russian service.

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Pushkin’s wife, Natalia Pushkina. Wikimedia

A “Certificate of a Cuckold”

Alexander Pushkin became a committed social reformer by the time he graduated. That upset the Tsarist authorities and secret police, who placed him under surveillance for the remainder of his life. At age twenty one, he was exiled from St. Petersburg to southern Russia. In exile, he travelled through Crimea and the Caucasus. The impressions gained furnished material for his “southern cycle” of romantic poems, such as The Robber Brothers and Prisoner of the Caucasus. Pushkin’s literary outflow often alarmed the authorities, who frequently censored his work and prohibited or otherwise impeded its publication.

Despite officialdom’s ham-handedness, Pushkin continued to write. His poetic novel Eugene Onegin revolutionized Russian literature as the first to take contemporary society as its subject matter, and led a wave of realistic Russian novels. His use of the Russian language was both simple and profound. It became the foundation of the style adopted by novelists such as Leo Tolstoy and Ivan Turgenev. Pushkin’s tragic end began in 1836, when he received an anonymous “Certificate of a Cuckold”, that alluded to the infidelity of his wife, Natalia Pushkina, nee Goncharova.

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Georges D’Anthes. Wikimedia

Marriage to Pushkin’s Sister in Law Did Stop This Slimy Officer From Pursuing the Poet’s Wife

George d’Anthes, a French officer in Russian service, had publicly pursued Pushkin’s wife, Natalia. A beautiful if flirtatious and frivolous woman, Natalia might have encouraged the pursuit. Rumors soon swirled of an affair between the Frenchman and the poet’s wife. The era’s code of honor demanded that Pushkin challenge the offender to a duel, which the poet did in November, 1836. However, d’Anthes married Natalia’s sister soon thereafter, which made him Pushkin’s brother in law. So that challenge was dropped. However, despite his marriage to her sister, d’Anthes continued to publicly pursue Natalia Pushkina.

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Pushkin and his tragic duel. Russia Beyond

He went about it so openly, that rumors once again circulated. This time to the effect that the Frenchman had married Natalia’s sister only to save her honor – and to have an excuse to get closer to Pushkin’s wife. So another challenge was issued, and this time it was accepted. On February 7th, 1837, Pushkin and d’Anthes met in a duel. In movies and fiction, the good and romantic guy wins. This was real life, however, and the trained soldier d’Anthes fatally wounded Pushkin, who in return only managed to slightly wound the Frenchman’s arm. Russia’s greatest poet died of his injuries two days later.

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A young Axel von Fersen. Flickr

A Royal Marriage and Love Triangle

In his teens, Count Hans Axel von Fersen (1755 – 1810) went on a grand tour of Europe, and in 1774 he arrived in France. The count, two months older than Marie Antoinette, met the future queen at a ball when they were both nineteen-years-old and she was the Dauphine, or French Crown Princess. Both liked what they saw. For the Dauphine, the contrast was stark between the handsome youth and her schlub of a husband whom she had tied the knot with in a marriage of state, the future Louis XVI. A few years later in 1778, von Fersen was back in France, and Marie Antoinette, who by then was queen, had not forgotten the handsome Swede. She often inquired about him, and pouted when he missed some of her parties, informal affairs held in her private chateau on the grounds of Versailles, the Petit Trianon.

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A young Mari Antoinette. Wikimedia

He wrote in his diary entry for November 19th, 1778: “The queen treats me with great kindness; I often pay her my court at her card-games, and each time she makes to me little speeches that are full of good-will. As someone had told her of my Swedish uniform, she expressed a wish to see me in it; I am to go Thursday thus dressed, not to Court, but to the queen’s apartments. She is the most amiable princess that I know“. Von Fersen kept much of his correspondence with Marie Antoinette. It contained no proof of a love affair. However, we now know that is because he had censored and altered a lot of it before he died. Scientists recently subjected some of the letters exchanged between the count and queen to X-ray fluorescence, which revealed what had been originally written.

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A young Louis XVI and Marie Antoinette. Pinterest

Evidence of a Non-Platonic Relationship

Words like “adore”, “madly”, and “beloved” jumped out of the pages. They indicate that, despite her marriage to the French Crown Prince and later king, the relationship Marie Antoinette and von Fersen was not platonic. Even in worldly France and the decadent world of the eighteenth century French court, women did not lightly use words like “beloved” to men who were not their husbands. Stuff like that triggered duels, and in the case of a queen, was treason that could lead to a trial for adultery and execution. Indeed, French history had examples in which extramarital affairs with royal women ended in the torture and execution of their lovers, and the imprisonment of the royal ladies. For Marie Antoinette to refer to von Fersen as her “beloved” on paper, in her own handwriting, was not like a modern innocent “Dear X”.

People noticed that the Queen of France was attracted to Count Axel von Fersen. Sweden’s envoy to the court of King Louis XVI noted in 1779 that despite her marriage, Marie Antoinette couldn’t hide her love for the Swedish count in public. The Swedish envoy was worried that a scandal might erupt at any moment. He was relieved when Fersen left for the American Colonies in 1780. There, he served as an aide de camp to the Comte de Rochambeau, commander of the French army that fought on the Patriots’ side. Von Fersen was persent when the allied French and American armies besieged and forced the surrender of a British army at Yorktown in 1781. He returned to France in 1783, and resumed his affair with Marie Antoinette.

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The Petite Trianon. YouTube

Marriage to a King Did Not Stop This Queen from Public Displays of Affection for Another Man

Secret letters were exchanged, and von Fersen’s diary contains entries about a woman named “Elle” – his codename for the queen – whom he madly loved but could not wed because she was already married. In the meantime, it was an open secret that whenever von Fersen was in Paris, he spent days on end at Marie Antoinette’s private chateau, the Petit Trianon. When he left for Sweden a year later, he got the queen a dog, which she cherished and named Odin. King Louis XVI knew of his wife’s love for Axel von Fersen, but did little about it. For a French monarch, this Louis was not much of a womanizer – or any type of womanizer, at all. French kings had long been known for their insatiable lust, and marriage had never prevented their infidelity. Louis XVI was different.

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Axel von Fersen. Prado Museum

He wed Marie Antoinette in 1770 when he was fifteen and she was fourteen. He showed little interest in her, and the marriage was not consummated until seven years later, in 1777. In a letter to his brother, Holy Roman Emperor Joseph II wrote that Louis had confided to him what he did with his queen. Louis: “Introduces the member … stays there without moving for about two minutes“, then pulls out without ejaculation and “bids goodnight“. In addition to inexperience and shyness, Louis might have suffered from phimosis, a foreskin condition that causes pain when the penis is erect. Reportedly, it was only after he underwent surgery that he was finally able to consummate his marriage. Louis and his queen seldom spent much time together. He often ate and drank so much that he became nearly senseless, and had to be carried to bed.

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Marie Antoinette. Poster Lounge

Were Marie Antoinette’s Children Fathered by King Louis XVI, or by Her Swedish Lover?

Unsurprisingly, Marie Antoinette sought love outside the marriage, and looked for somebody who had a clue what to do in bed. There was plenty of fodder for gossip about whatever Marie Antoinette and her hubby did – or more precisely didn’t do – in their marriage bed. What is known is that before von Fersen showed up, Marie Antoinette had not conceived her first child until seven years after she had been married to Louis. There was then a three year gap – which coincided perfectly with von Fersen’s absence in America – before she got pregnant again. Within a month of the count’s return to France in 1783, Marie Antoinette went from two pregnancies in ten years, to three pregnancies in three years. The first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, the second one produced a son, and the third a daughter, who did not live long.

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A young Louis XVI. Wikimedia

The boy who survived – the future Louis XVII who died in captivity during the French Revolution – did not look like Louis XVI, but strongly resembled von Fersen. We now know that the French king was autistic. Although quite intelligent, he couldn’t look people in the eye, was obsessive compulsive and needed to do things in accordance with a rigid schedule, and cried easily. He also did not seem to need sex. He liked his wife, but not for physical reasons: she was his emotional support. She realized that, supported Louis emotionally, and did all she could to protect him. But as to love, her heart belonged to von Fersen. He was back in France as the king of Sweden’s personal envoy to the French court when the French Revolution erupted.

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The storming of the Bastille at the start of the French Revolution in 1789. Wikimedia

The Count Who Cuckolded a King – and Tried to Save His Life

The French Revolutionary Wars, and later the Napoleonic Wars into which they seamlessly segued, roiled Europe and much of the world from the 1790s until the Battle of Waterloo in 1815. The years after the French Revolution broke out in Paris were tough on the French king and queen. After a revolutionary mob stormed the Bastille in 1789, Louis XVI decided to go to Paris as a good will gesture towards the revolutionaries. Marie Antoinette went into hysterics when her husband left. It took plenty of work by Axel von Fersen and other close intimates to calm the queen down.

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Axel von Fersen. The British Museum

A few months after they stormed the Bastille, the unwashed masses burst into the Palace of Versailles in October, 1789, and forcibly transferred the royal family to Paris. Eventually, both were executed. However, Louis XVI and Marie Antoinette, helped by Count Axel von Fersen, had nearly avoided that fate. Von Fersen did not abandon his lover after revolution swept her country. The love of the French queen’s life tried to help her – as well as her royal hubby whom he had cuckolded – escape from revolutionary Paris to a monarchist stronghold. They almost made it.

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Marie Antoinette and her children. Wikimedia

A Royal Marriage That Was Simultaneously Strained and Strengthened by a Shared Sense of Humiliation

Since the moment they were taken to Paris by a revolutionary mob, King Louis XVI and Marie Antoinette lived as virtual prisoners of their subjects. Their marriage was further strained – but in some aspects also strengthened – by the shared sense of humiliation they felt as they were forced to adjust to the role of constitutional monarchs. Eventually, the royal couple decided to slip out of Paris. Count Axel von Fersen began to arrange plans for the king and queen’s flight in the spring of 1791, and that June, he secured a type of light carriage known as a Berline to whisk them away to safety.

The plan was to take the king and the royal family to the citadel of Montmedy, about 200 miles from Paris. There, 10,000 men under a royalist general awaited Louis. After he regained his freedom of action, the king planned to launch a royalist counterrevolution. He mistakenly believed that only radicals in Paris supported the revolution, and that the peasants and the broad French masses were on his side. With their support, he planned to restore his kingdom to the way it had been.

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Marie Antoinette at the Tuileries Palace. Imgur

A Nerve-Wracking Wait

Count Axel von Fersen had carriages placed near the Tuileries Palace, where the royal family were kept under guard. At 11:15 PM on the night of June 20th, 1791, the royal children were brought out. Half an hour later, the king and his sister, Madame Elizabeth, followed. It took Marie Antoinette a bit longer to join them. Just as she was about to leave, the Marquis de Lafayette, who was in charge of the palace guard, showed up in a torch-lit carriage. The queen had to hide in the darkness until Lafayette went on his way, before she was able to join the rest of her family.

Louis XVI left a document in the Tuilereis Palace, addressed to the National Assembly. In it, he declared his intention to roll the clock back to the royal concessions granted in 1789, before the French Revolution began. In private correspondence, Marie Antoinette took an even more reactionary line. She declared an intention to return to the old order, without any concessions at all. Von Fersen personally drove the carriage that contained his love and her family to a spot a few miles from Paris. There, Marie Antoinette’s maids waited, along with fresh horses to whisk the royals to safety.

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The French royal family’s flight to Varennes. Imgur

A Last Minute Change of Rides

The escape party split up once the royal fugitives made it out of Paris. The king, queen, and their children took a post route, while von Fersen continued on via a different route. They planned to meet again at Montmedy, but thanks to a change of plans, the reunion never took place. To spirit away the French royal family and their close intimates, von Fersen had arranged for two fast light carriages, that could have made it to Montmedy relatively quickly. However, the royal family would have had to split up and travel in two separate carriages. Louis and Marie Antoinette adamantly refused to accept that.

Instead, the royal couple decided on a different ride at the last minute: a bigger and more conspicuous carriage drawn by six horses, that could accommodate everybody. It turned out to be a bad choice. Louis entered the contraption disguised as the valet of a Russian noblewoman – the governess of the royal children, who pretended to be their mother. Marie Antoinette pretended to be a governess, while her sister acted like a nurse. They made it out of Paris unchallenged, but they soon regretted their last minute carriage change.

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The French royal family’s flight came to an end when King Louis XVI was recognized. The British Museum

The End of a Royal Flight

Unfortunately for the French king and queen, the heavy carriage that carried them was slow. Worse, it had to stop for repairs when its traces broke. The royal couple’s disguises were also flimsy, and they were recognized by many along the route. The royal flight ended at the small town of Varennes, just thirty miles shy of safety. The local postmaster recognized Louis XVI from currency that bore his likeness, and the royal family were arrested and returned to Paris. It was an unmitigated disaster.

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Path of the royal family’s flight. Grey History

Before his flight, the revolutionaries had accepted Louis as a constitutional monarch. They took his assurances that he agreed with them at face value. His flight, coupled with the documents that he and Marie Antoinette had left behind that told them what they really though, changed their minds. Until then, abolition of the monarchy and the declaration of a republic was a fringe position, advocated only by radicals. Now, it quickly gained in popularity. On September 21st, 1792, the monarchy was abolished, and the French Republic was declared.

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Axel von Fersen. Finnish National Gallery

A Swedish Count’s Continued Efforts to Save the French Royal Couple

Axel von Fersen’s role in the royal family’s flight came to light soon enough, and a warrant was issued for his arrest. He fled France, and got in touch with aristocratic French exiles. Led by Louis XVI’s younger brother, the Comte d’Artois, they sought to roll back the French Revolution and restore the Ancien Regime. Von Fersen assisted in their efforts to try and get other European powers to declare war on revolutionary France. In August, 1791, he traveled to Vienna, where he met Holy Roman Emperor Leopold II, Marie Antoinette’s brother, then snuck back into Paris.

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Marie Antoinette in 1792. Lady Reading

Disguised with a big wig and fake mustache, von Fersen claimed to be an envoy from Portugal’s queen. In December, 1791, that got him into the Tuileries Palace, where Louis and Marie Antoinette were now held under tight guard. He pitched them another escape plan. Since the roads were now closely watched, the king should flee through the woods, and then by sea. In the meantime, Marie Antoinette’s love would spirit her and the children away via another route. Louis rejected the plan, because he did not believe it would work. That night, von Fersen saw Marie Antoinette for the last time.

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The execution of Louis XVI. Wikimedia

The Marriage of Marie Antoinette and Louis XVI Lasted Until Death Did Them Part

Axel von Fersen left France after Louis XVI shot down his escape plan. His and the French emigres’ efforts to instigate war between Europe’s monarchies and revolutionary France finally bore fruit in the summer of 1792, when war broke out between France and Austria. Rather than help von Fersen’s love and her family, however, it doomed them. That September, the French National Assembly abolished the monarchy and declared a French Republic. Despite all ups and downs, the marriage of Louis XVI and Marie Antoinette lasted until they were literally parted by death. He was tried for treason in December of 1792, convicted, and guillotined a month later. Von Fersen tried to arrange a cavalry raid to snatch his love from Paris, but the generals he pitched the plan to rejected it as hopeless.

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Marie Antoinette on her way to the guillotine. Pinterest

Marie Antoinette met the same fate as her husband, and was guillotined in October, 1793. Von Fersen wrote about his reaction: “Though I was prepared for it and expected it since the transfer to the Conciergerie, I was devastated by the reality. I did not have the strength to feel anything … I thought about her constantly, about all the horrible circumstances of her sufferings, of the doubt she might have had about me, my attachment, my interest. That thought tortured me“. Devastated, he returned to Sweden, where he fell into disfavor at court and lost much of his political clout. From his home country, he was forced to stand by helplessly and watch as Revolutionary France, which had killed his love, expanded its reach across Europe.

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Count Axel von Fersen in 1793. Ostergotlands Museum, Sweden

Marie Antoinette’s Lover Was Lynched by a Street Mob

Marie Antoinette’s lover eventually regained favor at the Swedish court, and was sent as an envoy to France, where he met Napoleon Bonaparte in 1797. Napoleon recalled the count’s efforts against the Revolution and on behalf of the executed French king and queen. As von Fersen recounted, Napoleon: “remarked that the Court of Sweden seemed to take a pleasure in sending agents and ambassadors who were personally disagreeable to every French citizen“. When he returned to Sweden, the count was alarmed by a rise in popular sympathy for revolutionary France. In 1801, he became Marshal of the Realm, Sweden’s highest court official. From that position, he did all he could to halt the spread of revolution to his country. In 1809, a coup deposed Sweden’s King Gustav IV Adolf, and replaced him with his uncle, Charles XIII. A dispute then erupted over who should succeed Charles.

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Axel von Fersen was killed by a Stockholm mob. Imgur

Von Fersen backed a faction that supported the deposed king’s son, Gustav, Prince of Vasa. They opposed the popular Charles August, who was adopted by Charles XIII and became Crown Prince, or heir to the throne. However, Charles fell off his horse in 1810, had a stroke, and died. Rumors spread that he was poisoned, and von Fersen became a prime suspect. On June 10th, as Marshal of the Realm, he rode in a carriage at the head of the Crown Prince’s funeral procession. He was attacked by a mob as soon as he reached Stockholm. The crowd dragged von Fersen out of the carriage, and the funeral’s armed military escort did not intervene. He broke free and ran into a nearby house, but the mob followed and dragged him back out into the street, where it beat him to death.


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