Julia Gardiner Tyler was One of the U.S. Colorful Leading Woman

Julia Gardiner Tyler was One of the U.S. Colorful Leading Woman

D.G. Hewitt - March 18, 2019

John Tyler served as the tenth President of the United States. However, he was only in office for 8 months. And those were 8 largely uneventful months. As such, Tyler remains one of the country’s lesser-known Presidents. But while he is often forgotten, his wife continues to fascinate. Julia Gardiner Tyler was the second-youngest First Lady in history. And, while she was only in the White House for less than a year, she made her mark in more ways than one.

As First Lady, for example, she changed Presidential protocol – and many of the changes she introduced are still in effect today. What’s more, she helped change how the country sees their First Lady. She was a public relations pioneer and a born entertainer. Moreover, Julia believed it was her duty to be more than a silent partner and she became actively involved in politics. At the same time, however, she was on the wrong side of history on more than one occasion, most notably due to her attitude to slavery.

So, from her privileged beginnings to her early disgrace and then from the glamor of the White House to near-poverty as a widow, here’s 20 things every history fan needs to know about the life and times of Julia Gardiner Tyler:

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Julia Gardiner Tyler was the first First Lady to become more famous than her husband! Wikimedia Commons.

20. Julia’s was no rags-to-riches story; the future First Lady was born into the New York elite

Julia Gardiner, future First lady of the United States, was born into the New York elite on 4 May 1820. Her father, David Gardiner, had enjoyed a successful – and lucrative – career in law before going into politics. He served four one-year terms as New York State Senator whilst also overseeing several other business interests, including a substantial real estate portfolio. Julia’s mother, Juliana MacLachlan Gardiner, came from Dutch and Scottish immigrants to the United States, though she had been born in Jamaica.

Julia was the third of four children. She had two brothers and just one sister, Margaret, two years her junior. All of the children were born on Gardiners Island, which had been purchased by Lion Gardiner from the Montaukett chief Wyandanch back in 1639. To this day, Gardiners Island, the ancestral family home, remains the second-biggest privately-owned island in the whole of the United States. However, for most of Julia’s childhood, the family lived in the town of East Hampton and then the smaller, quaint hamlet of Bay Shore, a popular destination for wealthy New Yorkers escaping the big city on the weekends.

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The Gardiners not only had a mansion, they had their own private island. Wikimedia Commons.

19. She didn’t just have beauty, she had brains too, even if Julia did love music more than math

Very little is known about the future First Lady’s early years. However, given her family wealth and social status, it’s almost certain that she would have benefited from the best education money could buy from a very early age. Indeed, while the gender norms of the time would have meant she would have been expected to marry well and be content with life as a dutiful wife, she would still have been expected to be intelligent or at least well-read – if only so that she could later hold her own in polite conversations at society balls or other elitist events.

What is known is that, from the ages of 15 to 17, Julia attended the prestigious Madame N.D. Chagaray Institute for Young Ladies in New York City. For two years, she was a boarding student here, with the city’s finest tutors ensuing their young charges had a good understanding of many different subjects. So, as well as being tutored in arithmetic, Julia also studied modern languages, most notably French, literature and ancient history. Above all, it was said that she excelled in music and composition – both subjects for which she would retain a life-long passion.

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Julia’s decision to pose as a model for this handbag advert caused a stir. Pinterest.

18. At the age of 19, Julia was taken to Europe to avoid the shame of posing for as a model in a handbag advertisement

In 1839, when she was still in her teens, Julia made a decision that would change her life forever. She agreed to model for a middle-class clothes store. The teen beauty was pictured with an unidentified man modelling a new handbag. She was named as the “Rose of Long Island”. Far from being proud of Julia’s independence, her family were shocked. After all, modelling was seen as something ‘common’ girls did, not upper-class ladies. Fearful that Julia would be shunned by polite society, her family arranged for her to embark on a tour of Europe so that she could avoid any further embarrassment and be out of the spotlight for a short while.

At the age of 19, when she should have been being ‘presented’ to Virginia society, then, Julia toured Europe. The family – Julia, her parents and her sister Margaret – left in October 1840 and returned 11 months later. It was a whirlwind tour. In less than a year, the Gardiner family visited England, France, Italy, Switzerland, Germany, Holland, Belgium, Ireland and Scotland. They traveled in style and, thanks to the father’s connections and reputation, were warmly welcomed by the European elite.

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Pope Gregory XVI would go on to meet Julia and the rest of the Gardiner family. Wikimedia Commons.

17. So While touring Europe, Julia enjoyed a private audience with the Pope – and she even had brief romances with dashing royals

Whilst in Rome, the Gardiners were invited to the Vatican for an audience with Pope Gregory XVI (a strong critic of the Atlantic slave trade, a trade which her future husband would support as President). Julia would kiss the Papal Ring and receive the Pope’s blessing. It may have been this meeting that led her to convert to Roman Catholicism many years later, in May 1872. However, it wasn’t only the Pope who was taken with the beautiful and vivacious young American. She also caught the eye of some of Europe’s most eligible bachelors – and evidently enjoyed the attention.

According to her later diaries, Julia enjoyed a brief romantic fling with a Belgian Count. Indeed, so infatuated was he that he even planned on leaving Brussels for America, only abandoning his romantic plans when he learned of Julia’s marriage to Tyler. She also enjoyed a fling with the German Baron von Krudener whilst in Rome. She later recalled that he adored her “in secret, in silence, in tears”. Though nothing came of this romance – indeed, it’s unlikely they were ever really intimate – 25 years later she asked her sons to check up on the Baron when they went to Germany for their studies.

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Julia’s natural beauty attracted the attention of Europe’s most eligible bachelors. Pinterest.

16. Julia was famed for her natural beauty and she won the hearts of both European royalty and America’s political elite

As a young woman in society, Julia was considered to be a great beauty. According to the records, she was five feet, three inches tall, with brown hair and striking grey-ish eyes. While most contemporary accounts note that she was buxom yet had a slender waist, like many women of her social class and age, she was reputedly constantly worried about her weight. Indeed, according to several biographies of the future First Lady, right up until the eve of her wedding to Tyler, she fretted that she had grown a little ‘plump’.

Unsurprisingly, just as in Europe, Julia attracted the eye of many of Washington’s men – both single bachelors and older, married politicians. Writing several years after the fact, she revealed that, in the spring of 1842, while she and her family were in the national capital for the social season, an older man openly flirted with her. It was only later she learned that this man was Millard Fillmore – and that the future-President was not only two decades older than Julia, but he had been married to Abigail Powers for 16 years!

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President Tyler was three decades older than his wife-to-be. Wikipedia.

15. When Julia met President Tyler for the first time, he was a married man with two children while she was just 21

Julia first met the President and his family on 20 January 1842. For several months, Julia’s father had been building his contacts in Washington and he was rewarded with an official invitation to the White House. While President Tyler’s wife of some 27 years Letitia was unable to attend since she was gravely ill in bed after suffering from a severe stroke, the couple’s daughter Letitia Tyler Semple, as well as their daughter-in-law Priscilla Cooper Tyler were there to serve as official hostesses.

The presence of the rest of the Tyler family, as well as of the President’s own daughter, make it highly unlikely that he would have flirted with the 21-year-old Julia on this occasion. Indeed, by all accounts, he was a loyal and loving husband to Letitia. However, the truth is that almost nothing is known of the first time the pair met, including whether it was love at first sight for the 50-something President or whether his infatuation started later.

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President Tyler was infatuated with Julia, even when he was still in grief. Wikipedia.

14. Julia was proposed to by John Tyler just weeks after the President had lost his wife of 30 years to cancer!

Just 8 months after he had first welcomed the Gardiner family to the White House and met their eldest daughter for the first time, President John Tyler lost his wife to the stroke she had suffered almost a year previously. Though he had been married for nearly 30 years, Tyler wasted no time in trying to find a second wife. And he was fixated on the much-younger, feisty and very attractive Julia. What’s more, he made no secret of his desires, openly flirting with her whenever she would visit the White House with her family. The President is even said to have chased her around a table trying to steal a kiss.

In all, less than five months passed between the death of his wife Letitia and President Tyler proposing marriage to Julia. He asked her outright at a masquerade ball held at the White House to honor George Washington’s birthday. And she turned him down outright. Not only was he 30 years old than her, Tyler was also a Southerner, quiet, often moody and showing his age. In comparison, she was young, vivacious and outgoing. Despite the knockback, Tyler asked again – and again. Though she repeatedly turned down his proposals, Julia did respond to his romantic letters and the pair struck up a regular correspondence.

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A press picture of the shock explosion that killed Julia’s father. Pinterest.

13. The shocking and horrific death of her father finally convinced Julia of President Tyler’s love and sincerity

In the end, it was the sudden and tragic death of Julia’s father than led her to see Tyler as a potential husband. It was the last day of February in 1844 and the Gardiner family had been invited to join the President, his closest advisers and many other members of the Washington elite, on a cruise aboard a new steam frigate, the Princeton. What should have been a joyous day turned into a disaster when the captain ordered the ship’s cannon – ironically named ‘The Peacemaker’ – to be fired to honor the President. The malfunctioning cannon backfired, causing a huge explosion.

Julia was below deck at the time and so escaped the worst of the blast. However, her father, David Gardiner was killed immediately. Also killed in the accident were the Secretary of State and the Secretary of the Navy. Julia was forced to return with her family and her father’s remains to the family home in East Hampton, where David was buried. Later on, Julia would recall that President Tyler’s strength, stoicism and kind words were of great comfort to her during this tough time – and made her look at him as a potential loving husband.

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The newlyweds hoped to keep their marriage low-key, but the secret was soon out. Twitter.

12. Only a handful of witnesses were there to see Julia become Mrs Tyler but the secret was soon out

Exactly a year after President Tyler first proposed to Julia, he did so again – and this time got a positive response. He popped the question at the 1844 George Washington Ball at the White House. By this point, East Coast society was full of rumors about the pair’s alleged romance since they had been spending so much time together. However, while nobody could doubt the President’s infatuation with Julia, he nevertheless agreed to a low-key wedding. At 54-years-old, Tyler ‘eloped’ with his young bride.

Just 12 guests were present for what otherwise would have been the society event of the year. Among those present at the Church of the Ascension in New York City on 26 June 1844 was the President’s son, though several of his other children missed their father’s big day. The small wedding party then enjoyed a low-key reception (since they were still in mourning for Julia’s father) at the Gardiner family home. The newlyweds then went on a decidedly-unromantic honeymoon to Jersey City, Philadelphia and Baltimore.

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Julia embraced life as First Lady despite her young age, thanks to the guidance of Dolley Madison. Wikimedia Commons.

11. Julia was young and naïve but she found a mentor in feisty former First Lady Dolley Madison

Julia Gardiner Tyler was just 22-years-old when she moved into the White House as the First Lady of the United States. While she wasn’t the youngest woman to hold the role – that was Frances Folsom Cleveland, who was 21 when she married President Grover Cleveland in 1886 – she was still arguably out of her depth and surrounded by older, more-powerful men. Luckily, Julia found an ally and a mentor close-by. Dolley Madison, wife of President James Madison, lived just across the road from the White House. She and Julia struck up an unlikely friendship – Dolley was almost 80 – and even traveled to New York City together for short breaks.

As First Lady, Dolley was credited with being much more than a social hostess. She hosted functions that brought together politicians from both parties. Indeed, she is often credited with inventing bipartisan cooperation in American politics. Julia was determined to follow her lead. Though she was young, from the start she vowed to be an active First Lady. Indeed, the newspapers of the time noted how much energy she brought to her official duties – in marked contrast, they also noted, to the lethargy of her husband.

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Julia loved to dance, even if polite society frowned upon it. Pinterest.

10. Despite the disapproval of many, as First Lady she loved to dance in the White House – and even embraced a scandalous new dance trend

Even though she was First Lady, with all the responsibilities that entailed, Julia was still a young lady, still in her 20s. And, as such, she still liked to have fun. Above all, she loved to dance, even though her 50-something husband didn’t care for it. She used her status to host balls in the White House. However, Julia broke all protocol by not just hosting such events, but publicly dancing herself. What’s more, she loved to dance the polka, the trendiest dance of the time.

Many observers were shocked at the goings-on in the East Room of the White House. Following the trends of the time, Julia would dance the polka with visiting European dignitaries, getting uncomfortably close and personal with her partners. Far from toning it down, Julia courted the controversy. Indeed, she made her love of the ‘scandalous’ polka known, helping to promote the dance and make it popular across the United States. The leading musicians of the day even wrote tunes in her honor, known as ‘Julia Waltzes’.

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Julia had this photo portrait taken in New York City. Wikimedia Commons.

9. Long before the term ‘PR’ had even been invented, Julia knew how to play the press perfectly

Julia Gardiner Tyler was not the ‘shy and retiring’ type. Quite the opposite, in fact. She loved to be the center of attention, and she used every trick in the PR book to make sure she was. It was Julia who insisted she be called ‘The President’s Bride’ rather than simple ‘Mrs Tyler’ in the aftermath of their marriage. She then actively courted the press. Julia reached out to a New York Herald reporter and offered him exclusive access to all of the social events she planned on holding in the White House. In return, the reporter would make constant references to the First Lady’s grace and beauty.

Notably, Julia was keen to use all the latest PR tricks. Indeed, she was the first President’s wife to sit for a photograph portrait. She took time off her White House duties to visit the pioneering American photographer Edward Anthony in his studio in New York City. Between June 1844 and March 1845, Julia made several trips to the Big Apple to sit for the photographer. And she always insisted that the portraits be widely copied and distributed. Before long, her face was just as famous – perhaps even more so – than that of her husband, the President.

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Julia became a style icon, with women copying the First Lady’s fashions. Pinterest.

8. She was one of the first American fashion icons and women across the country copied her styles

Julia was a true fashion icon. Women across America would look to her for the latest trends, most of which she introduced to the country from Europe. But it wasn’t just European fashions that Julia brought to her native land. She was also clearly influenced by the pomp and ceremony of European royalty, ceremonies which she had witnessed first-hand whilst touring the continent. So, for instance, the First Lady would receive guests sat on an elevated throne-like chair and dressed in a fine white gown and even a headdress of peacock feathers.

Alongside her ornate dress, Julia is also reported to have surrounded herself with 12 young women dressed all in white – her own troop of ‘vestal virgins’, like some ancient Greek goddess. Somewhat surprisingly, the public were not put off by Julia’s lavish and ostentatious ways. Indeed, she was, by all accounts, hugely popular. Notably, the Grand Finale Ball she held at the White House towards the very end of her husband’s first and only term as President was the hottest ticket in town; in all, some 3,000 guests crammed into the Presidential mansion, including five foreign ambassadors.

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The only known portrait of the first White House dog, owned by Julia. Pinterest.

7. The Tylers were the first White House occupants to have a dog, even if it was more of a fashion accessory for the First Lady

Over the years, many Presidents have enjoyed the company of a pet dog or cat in the White House. Indeed, President Trump is the first Commander-in-Chief to not have a pet for several decades! But it was Julia Tyler who first introduced the idea of a ‘First Dog’ to the world. And, again, she did so largely to improve her image with the wider public. Julia had only been resident in the White House for a few weeks when she took receipt of her dog, a short-haired Italian greyhound imported from the Consul of Naples.

There are no records of what the dog was called. However, several contemporary reports do reveal that Julia would regularly walk through the muddy streets of downtown Washington with the fashionable dog beside her. Indeed, she even had an official portrait made of the pet, again an American first. Quite what became of the dog once President Tyler’s term came to an end and the couple moved out of the White House remains a mystery, however.

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Due to Julia’s insistence, Hail to the Chief became an anthem for the President. Wikipedia.

6. A fan of European royal pomp, Julia was the first to make ‘Hail to the Chief’ a Presidential anthem

As proud wife of the President, Julia was the one who insisted that the tune ‘Hail to the Chief’ be played to announce her husband’s arrival. That’s not to say that the tune hadn’t been used for Presidential ceremonies before. Set to music in 1812, the song – which took its lyrics from a Sir Walter Scott poem – was played to salute first President Andrew Jackson and then again at the inauguration of Martin Van Buren in 1837. However, it’s certainly the case that it was Julia Gardiner Tyler who ordered the White House musicians to adopt ‘Hail to Chief’ as the official Presidential Anthem and use it as a matter of protocol.

And that wasn’t the only notable change Julia made to official ceremonies involving the President. She also had President Tyler stand against the back wall of the Oval Office when receiving guests. Previously, the President and First Lady stood in the middle of the room, welcoming visiting dignitaries and other guests. While undoubtedly a safer option from a security point-of-view, Julia was actually more concerned that her much-older husband not be exhausted and overwhelmed by people from all sides.

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Julia became known as an active First Lady, as this cartoon shows. Wikimedia Commons.

5. As First Lady and a celebrity, many ordinary Americans reached out to Julia, including those in desperate circumstances

Unlike many First Ladies, Julia Gardiner Tyler had little political experience before moving into the White House. She had never fought an election campaign, for instance, while her youth also meant she had only a rudimentary understanding of the complex machinations of American government. But that didn’t stop Julia from trying to be more than just a White House hostess. Above all, she felt she had a duty to try and help those who reached out to her in desperation. Her fame led to the First Lady receiving numerous requests for Presidential pardons or clemency.

In many cases, Julia did indeed petition the relevant Cabinet members, or even her husband, on behalf of individual citizens. And it worked too. In one famous instance, the First Lady successfully intervened on behalf of a New Yorker whose name was only recorded as ‘Babe’. Accused of ‘piracy on the high seas’ and sentenced to death, Julia managed to have his conviction overturned, saving an innocent man’s life. On numerous other occasions, she also convinced the military chiefs to grant individual soldiers extra leave, or she successfully found jobs in the Federal Government for the unemployed.

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The Tylers retired to this plantation, Sherwood Forest, where they held more than 60 slaves. Wikipedia.

4. Like her husband, Julia had no moral objections to slavery – though she did object to Europeans telling slave-owners what to do!

After leaving the White House, the Tylers retired to Sherwood Forest, the plantation outside of Charles City, Virginia, owned by the President. Though Julia had been born and raised in the northern United States, and though she had traveled extensively through Europe, she nevertheless soon adjusted to life as the wife of a wealthy, southern plantation owner – and slave owner. The couple owned more than 60 slaves, put to work on around 1,100 acres of land.

Far from criticizing slavery, Julia sided with her husband, arguing that it was a State issue and that the Federal Government had no place interfering in a citizen’s business affairs. In fact, Julia even went so far as to write an essay in defense of slavery. Entitled The Women of England Vs. the Women of America, it was a direct response against an English-led petition to abolish the Atlantic slave trade. In turn, Julia’s polemic prompted the former slave Harriet Jacobs to pick up a pen and write the first of her many acclaimed and influential works highlighting the inherent evil of slavery.

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Julia was still relatively young and active when she became a widow. Pinterest.

3. Julia was made a widow before her 60th birthday, and from then on insisted on being called ‘Mrs Ex-President Tyler’

President John Tyler died just after midnight on 17 January 1862. Julia was by his side. Notably, due to his allegiance to the Confederate States of America, his death was not officially recognized in Washington – the first and only time this has happened. At his funeral, the former President’s coffin was covered in the Confederate flag – a clear symbol of his allegiance in the civil strife that was to tear America apart. Julia also remained staunchly pro-Confederacy. Despite this, she managed to obtain special dispensation, allowing her to travel across the lines separating the warring North and South.

Julia spent much of the Civil War far away from the fighting. Using her wealth and connections, she managed to travel to Bermuda. And she stayed, enjoying the Caribbean sunshine and the company of other exiled Confederates. Before the war was over, she returned to America, taking up residence in Staten Island. While some Confederacy supporters laid low, Julia was not one of them. Instead, in the immediate aftermath of the war, she threw herself into her social life – and she insisted on being called ‘Mrs Ex-President Tyler’!

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President Tyler was not buried with full honors and Julia had to fight for a pension. Wikimedia Commons.

2. As former First Lady, Julia was hit hard by a financial crash and then her own brother sued her over their mother’s will

The former President hit Julia hard, including on a financial level. What’s more, the Civil War meant that she lost around 60 slaves and some 1,100 acres of land. Before long, she decided to move back to New York. Her brother David had moved out of their mother’s old house, so Julia moved, bringing a couple of her own children with her. Them, three years after her husband’s death in 1862, her own brother hit Julia with a lawsuit. The siblings went to court, with David alleging that Julia had exploited their mother’s supposed “mental incapacity” to get the lion’s share of the inheritance.

Shockingly for Julia, the courts sided with David and declared their mother’s will invalid. The family inheritance was then re-distributed, with Julia losing out. To make matters worse, the financial crisis of 1873 – known then as the Panic of 1873 – further hit Julia hard. As a result, Julia moved to Virginia in 1873. She moved in with her children and was forced to rely on them for money. The days of enjoying the good life and the luxuries that came with being the First Lady were well and truly over.

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Julia was buried alongside her husband, President and First Lady together forever. Find A Grave.

1. The former First Lady had to fight hard to get an official pension – but only had a few years of financial comfort at the end

In the end, Julia Tyler was able to live her last few years in relative comfort. After months of lobbying hard, in 1880, Congress finally agreed to pay her a monthly allowance. Though this was far short of the official pension Julia wanted – and believed she deserved – it eased her worries considerably and allowed her to be more independent. Then, the unexpected death of President James Garfield in 1881 led to a change in the rules. Congress finally agreed to grant the widows of former Presidents an annual pension of $5,000 – a sizeable sum and enough for Julia to live more than comfortably.

Sadly, however, Julia would only live another 8 years. In July of 1899, she suffered a stroke whilst on holiday in Richmond. She died shortly afterwards in the Exchange Hotel in the city. Since she had converted to Roman Catholicism late in life, she was given a full religious funeral. While her husband might be one of America’s ‘forgotten Presidents’, Julia is remembered as one of the country’s most colourful First Ladies, even if her attitudes to slavery do taint her legacy.


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